So I did a thing…
Oooohhh, so yummy. Can’t wait till it cools enough to cut it. 😍😍😍😍😍
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One of the funniest and most poignant memories I have of my daughter was when she was about 7 years old: a few years ago, when we lived in our old apartment, I was working on something in the living room, and B came in tugging behind her this little wooden cart. She had all her Backyardigans beanies piled up inside of it and wanted me to see something.
I said give me a few sweetie, Mommy has to finish this first. So she waited.
She got tired of waiting, because out of the corner of my eye, I see her lining up all her Backyardigans in a row, only they were facing forward, with their backs to me. I asked her why she lined them up that way.
“They’re unhappy because you’re taking too long and won’t look at them.”
Translation: SHE was unhappy that I was working, and not paying attention to her. She used her stuffed animals to show me her emotions.
I put the work away after that. I could always go back to it, but she would only be little, for a little while longer.
“And just like that, a second-grade boy, who was only there for his little sister’s birthday and who only asked one simple question about a girl and her dog, “got it.” Amazing.”
I find, as my daughter and I learn more about ourselves, and other Autistics, that it isn’t really the kids who have a problem – it’s the adults. Kids are remarkable. In every way. If you give a child the freedom to be as they are naturally and without inserting prejudice or preconceived bias against something or someone, they will restore your faith in humanity on the daily.
I find also, that adults are much less inclined to exert patience, compassion, or temperance in their speech, attitude, or treatment for anyone who lives with an unboxed mind.
Maybe that mom didn’t mean to get snappy with the little girl. Maybe she was going through her own anxiety and frustration. The article doesn’t say.
What I can say is that I’m always amazed by the capacity of children to accept with very little issue, what another person needs even if it’s unorthodox. Let’s hope as time marches on that we raise a generation of human meat popsicles who are more accepting and less apt to judge that with which they are unfamiliar.
Let’s teach them to revel in the unvarnished beauty of the unboxed mind.
I HAVE GOOD NEWS!
So most of y’all know the frustrations and struggling my minion has had with her homework and getting distracted, taking 3 hours to complete one math sheet, ending up both of us in tears usually. Well her dad came through a hero for these suggestions.
Instead of sitting at table or desk trying to concentrate and zoning out constantly, have her stand up somewhere, which in my house is the kitchen counter, because there’s no other surface the right height for her to do it.
Play some kind of upbeat music in the background. Whatever your kid likes. For her it’s pop, dance, etc.
Lo and behold, she got her hw done in less than 2 hours, including math and studying for quizzes today!
She was able to move and didn’t feel restricted, caged, stifled. She was sort of tap dancing while she worked.
Also for reading assignments, had her read them out loud. This kept her aware of the task, and let me know if she fell silent then I could check and remind her to keep going.
He also showed her how to strategize, how to do the easy, quick stuff first, and then she had more time for the harder stuff, how to break them down into small, bite sized amounts that didn’t overwhelm her.
🎶🎶 HALLELUJAH! 🎶🎶